Relationships & Sexual Health:
Consequences of Immodesty
"Respect for modesty made women powerful."
Wendy Shalit - author of A Return to Modesty
(The word modest means a boundary or standard of measure, therefore,
immodesty is having no standard or measure in regard to sexuality)
1. Immodesty is distracting: "Thinking deeply (which is natural) and
sexual desire (which is natural) cancel each other out (which is
natural)...This relationship is not confined to sexual passion. Such
distraction of the intellect occurs with most other passions as well: 'I
was so hungry, I couldn't think'; 'I was so angry that I wasn't able to
concentrate'...Can we admit that these other passions disturb our ability
to think but exclude sexual passion? If anything, sexual passion is a
stronger distraction. Thus, the more immodesty, the more distraction."
Benjamin D. Wiker, Professor at Franciscan University of Steubenville
2. Immodesty makes us worry more about how we look which can lead to
many types of disorders, including, but not limited to, anorexia,
bulimia, depression, and low self-worth.
3. Immodesty encourages men to become less honorable. "Do people
imagine men courted women in the past because they simply found it more
fun than casual sex? No, it was because women's modesty required it...It
is today's male who is thought manly by 'scoring.' In a different time
he proved his manhood by being honorable. Success with women used to
mean being faithful to one of them...Ultimately, it seems that only men
can teach other men how to behave around women, but those men have to be
inspired by women in the first place, inspired enough to think the women
are worth being courteous to...Women can't tell men how to behave - they
either inspire, or fail to inspire."
Wendy Shalit, author of A Return to
Modesty
4. Immodesty may lead to more pre-marital sex which in turn can lead to
many problems including STD's, out-of-wedlock pregnancy, and emotional
and spiritual consequences.
5. Immodesty leads to a blurring of right and wrong sexual behavior - at
what point do we draw the line?
6. Immodesty reduces women to a collection of body parts which cancels
out their intellect, heart, and soul.
7. Immodesty is missing God's best for your life. "But among you there
must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of
impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God's holy
people." Ephesians 5:3 "Therefore Jesus said...The thief comes only to
steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and
have it to the full." John 10: 7,10
A Return to Modesty: Discovering the Lost Virtue